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Nancy - I appreciate the message in your posting. I notice that my failures to act are usually based on some version of fear of looking bad socially. How much would be possible if I was willing to look ackward or hear someone else say 'no'??

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Thanks, Monica! I’m not sure if you’re looking for an answer here or just thinking out loud, but for what it’s worth, I suspect a lot more would be possible for most of us if we ignored that stuff. It’s hard, though! Social pressure is a real thing! But I suspect asking yourself how much you’ll regret not doing the thing later is still a useful yardstick when we’re in those situations, and may help us throw off that social pressure a little more easily.

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Your observation about pangs of envy as an indicator is so true! For me, anyway!

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It's like the compass pointing true north! And it can be amazing how quickly we shove that feeling down--both because it's "bad" to feel envy, and because dealing with the truth we're receiving can seem too difficult. I'm glad you recognize it in yourself!

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Your essay is a great reminder to use that envy as a motivator, not to feel bad.

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That's the trick! I'm glad it helps. 😄

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